I was abused. The Children's Advocacy Center of Northwest Cook County Illinois. She was also afraid she would lose her innocence. Erin endured the abuse from age 6 to 8 and from 11 to 13 and felt the long-lasting effects of her guilt, shame and loss of innocence. Check out Erins third book, An Unimagiable Act. This book describes Erins journey across America to get Erins Law passed and resources for survivors, parents, and educators. In the wee hours of the night, Ashley's uncle "Richard" (not his real name), who lived in the house with his niece, appeared in the darkened room. She is the force behind passing Erin's Law across America. If someone ever does touch you in those areas, you tell immediately., Merryn suggests the books The Swimsuit Lesson and The Right Touch.. He told me, "Your goal is to convince everyone else." Erin decided at a young age to take a stand against evil and expose the silent epidemic of child sexual abuse in the spotlight. I wish I could say that Erins story is uncommon, but that is far from the truth its happening right here in our own backyard, Bucco said. The shame is so overwhelming. She was honored for her efforts in 2012 as one of Glamour Magazines 2012 Women of the Year. Alaska Dispatch: What can someone reading about this do in their own life, or change about their own perspective, to make coming forward easier for victims? Eventually, her parents and sisters moved to another town, closer to family. (2016) Consider This Self - Author and Children's Advocate. The voice that was silenced for so long. He was given probation and counseling., Forgiveness is what set me free, she said. The place Erin reclaimed her voice and began her journey to healing. It was the first federal bill passed funding sexual abuse prevention education. What's your advice for sexual abuse victims who may want to come forward, but who feel the abuse is better kept secret or forgotten? Gov. A place I went to with my eleven year old sister and mother. Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. In 2009 Texas passed a similar law but it was only a task force which did not mandate students be taught personal body safety, making Illinois the first state to require personal body safety education by law. [3] According to her personal account, she told her parents about the latter after her sister confided that she had also been abused by the same relative. It was just the beginning of a long journey. He continued to abuse her on and off for nearly two years, she says, often at holidays and celebrations with her close-knit extended family. When Erin Merryn was a child, she was sexually abused by two people she knew and trusted, including a family member. I remember immediately after answering the interviewer I said "That's the reason I didn't tell before, I kept it to myself because I thought no one would believe me." My question to hotel or motel management would be, Why not tell? Alaska Dispatch: When you decided to confront and start corresponding with your cousin, how did it go at first? So far 27 states have passed Erins Law since 2010. This law could have given me the ability to know I would be believed, that this is not a secret to keep, and how to report it. The founder of Erin's Law. Through her speeches and books, Erin is an inspiration to professionals working daily to fight child abuse. Partly cloudy. So, she forgave him. Merryn travels the country advocating for children who are victims of sexual assault. Alaska Dispatch: Let's talk about two words we hear a lot when covering sexual abuse stories: victim and survivor. As the abuse continued, and as she was forced to see her abuser over and over again in social situations, she struggled with . After her parents decided to move Erin's abuse ended but only brought her that much closer to her next abuser, an older teenage cousin who lived . Alaska Dispatch: When you broke your silence and spoke up, was it frightening? Donors may not deduct contributions made to Erins Law under IRC Section 170 (c) (2). She urged kids to come forward if they or someone they know is being sexually abused. We need to start teaching kids this, she said. Two of those children were my sister and I. Teaching kids the differences between safe and unsafe touch, safe and unsafe secrets, how to report this to a safe adult and to keep reporting it if your abuse does not end, said Merryn. Illinois is the fifth state to pass Erin's Law since she took up the cause. Erin Merryn, Stolen Innocence: Triumphing Over a Childhood Broken by Abuse: A Memoir 0 likes Like "Brian, this letter is probably coming as a complete surprise to you, but I didn't feel I should warn you since you never warned me when you were going to use my body for own damn pleasures. But many schools, she said, are using faculty social workers and psychologists because research shows its better taught by in-house staff then outside agencies. Erin Elizabeth was sexually abused from 11-13 by her older cousin. Then something happened that no one saw coming: he confessed. Her friend slept through the assault, and Merryn remained silent. Erin is now on a mission to persuade all 50 states to pass Erins Law, which mandates that all public schools use age-appropriate curricula to teach students how to tell on anyone who touches or attempts to touch their private parts. Did anything make you an attractive target, or particularly vulnerable? Thirty-seven states have passed Erins Law and Merryn has tried three times in seven years to get the bill passed in Ohio. Merryn advocates for sexual abuse victims. But Ashley begged her not to say anything because Richard had told her they would "lose the house" if the girls told anyone. She explained to her cousin that she didnt want to publish it out of revenge, rather to help the millions of other sexual assault survivors. I found hope and healing there and people that believed me. (2013) Merryn worked with U.S. We simply cannot stand by and allow these innocent kids to feel ashamed and live in fear at the hands of their abuser. Victims of abuse know their perpetrators 80% to 90% of the time, says David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. Merryn spoke to members of the Ohio SenatePrimary and Secondary Education Committee of how she was sexually abused as a child. Erin's Law is the first US child sexual abuse prevention education law requiring children be educated in schools. Merryn saidif parents are not comfortable, the bill allows parents toopt their kids out of the education. What if their family is pressuring them to just keep quiet and get on with their life? So began her fight to bring this epidemic to the forefront, to push for every state to implement a prevention-oriented child sex-abuse program that teaches parents and school personnel how to recognize the signs of sexual abuse, and teaches kids from Kindergarten through twelfth grades techniques on how to also acknowledge abuse and tell a trusted adult. She was named Glamour Magazine Woman of the Year in 2012 and a People magazine Hero Among Us for her tireless work promoting Erin's Law nationwide with a mission to our keep children safe by educating them about personal body safety. I remember reading this thinking, they dont teach us that in school. The only education I ever received about sexual abuse was when I became a victim, and the abusers threatened bad things would happen if I ever told. Our guest speaker for the Luncheon will now be Erin Merryn, childhood sexual abuse survivor turned author, speaker, child advocate and activist, and the force behind Erin . She broke down and cried and said Erin's Law could have saved her as a child, but instead she only got the message from her abuser, who she knew, and stayed silent. Growing up in the suburbs of Chicago, I met my best friend in kindergarten. Behind those numbers are the faces of innocent children whose childhoods were shattered by actions of evil and sickness. Every other headline horrifies the public with another predator taking not just advantage of a child but everything from a child. In December 2015, President Obama signed the federal version of Erin's Law providing federal funding toschools to provide this education. Erin, a Chicago-area native, first introduced the legislation in Illinois, and the bill was given her namesake. Wow, I have a decision to make. Merryn said she testified four times for the task force. I had only ever been told no one (would) believe me, I feared ruining our large extended family when they learned a family member (teenage cousin) was molesting my sister and I. Sixteen years ago, on March 29, 1998, my sister broke her silence to me. Merryn: Yes. Ensuring all New Jersey kids have access to age-appropriate sexual abuse prevention education will end the cycle of abuse before it begins. EN. But nobody asked those important questions. Erin Merryn is author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, and An Unimaginable Act. I think he knew that once he had us conditioned, we were easy targets. She has made it her mission in life to get this legislation passed in all 50 states. Merryn found her voice at 13 when her younger sister said the words she'll never forget: "Brian's gross!" It turned out cousin Brian was abusing Merryn's little sister, too. Who were they? Children are taught that the police are their to keep their communities safe and lock up the bad people. Visiting Alaska this week, Erin Merryn is a long way from home, and even farther from the torturous past she endured as a sexually abused child. Erin Merryn (born February 2, 1985) is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, and An Unimaginable Act. Putting the lives of children in danger and possibly taking their innocence is worth it? "I just stared at the ceiling waiting for it to end." That happened until I was 13. But at age 11, Merryn's second nightmare began. As for Merryn, today shes married, the mother of an almost 2 year old, and expecting her second child in eight weeks. God has healed me, made me whole again, and has shown me the ability to forgive, the freedom it brings yourself, and shown me my purpose in this life, and that is to give kids the voice I didn't have. This decision has brought her on a crusade across America to pass what is known as Erin's Law. Therapists (and) an amazing school psychologist in high school really helped me heal. MORE: Moms and dads, can we talk about stranger danger? Erin Merryn Mar 2004 - Present18 years 7 months Chicago, IL Erin is an author, writer, and activist. Download it here. The man, then in his late 20s, abused her several more times in the next year, including, she says, raping her during a daytime visit when she thought he wouldn't be home. Vermont State Board of Education has required it in schools since 2009. Thinking she had finally escaped the endless sexual abuse, Merryn, the keynote speaker at the Sept. 26 luncheon, was once again sexually abused by a cousin beginning at the age of 11 at a family home in Lake Geneva. Her dad had to sit down and have a tough conversation with his sister, and denial followed. Merryn was also the owner of the viral Instagram cat, Bailey, until he died in December 2018. With every passing week, and with every visit, Erin gets closer to her goal. What do you think made him want to apologize, finally? She is dedicated to taking the stigma and shame away from sexual abuse and giving survivors the courage to speak up as she has. The two families have ceased having contact. Read more about Erin Merryn on her Erin's Law Facebook page and her website. Merryn is a national spokesperson for the National Children's Alliance, becoming the first survivor of child sexual abuse that went through a Children's Advocacy Center to speak on national television about her experience.[1]. Two days later, their cousin was brought into the police station. CBS News' Reena Ninan visited a public school in Illinois to see how the school teaches kids about safe . Lawmakers are in the dark about this. But what followed was depression,an eating disorder and a suicide attempt. So before CAC's a child brought to a police station could be filled with anxiety and fear that they are in trouble. Erin Merryn (Author) Format: Kindle Edition See all formats and editions Kindle $12.99 Read with Our Free App Paperback $16.10 35 Used from $2.70 5 New from $12.50 Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. So be careful sending little Tommy for ice at the machine down the hall and inform teens who often book motels after prom. The areas covered by your swimsuit are not for anyone to be touching, unless mommy and daddy are helping you with a bath. Her courage breaking her silence allowed me to take a stand for both of us and be brave and tell her we can't keep this a secret, that we have to tell our parents. Erin Merryn speaks with enthusiasm, rattling off the list of trips around the globe, the hours of research and meetings promoting her cause. Erin Merryn is an author (Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, An Unimaginable Act), activist, and founder of Erin's Law. Erin's Law, which debuted in Illinois, is now in 37 states and mandates that public schools teach age-appropriate sex abuse prevention to grades as young as pre-K. Merryn said those lessons on . In December 2010 I was voted News Maker of the year for the Daily Herald.She earned her masters degree in Social Work and is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, AnUnimaginableAct, Bailey No Ordinary Cat & The Diary of a Cat Named Carrot. However, Merryn said this time the perpetrator was an older cousin, someone she had viewed as a brother figure. 35. Use safe and unsafe touch. ALBANY, N.Y. - The Independent Democratic Conference was joined today by Assemblyman Jeff Dinowitz, (D-Bronx), and nationally recognized anti-abuse advocate and survivor Erin Merryn to hail the passage of important legislation to stamp out child sexual abuse in New York. Erin Merryn is among the many that came across the story. Alaska Dispatch: Resiliency can be an important factor in how well survivors of abuse cope and in whether they go on to lead a healthy, happy life. If you tell anybody, you will destroy our family, she said.. Her testimony was met with a standing ovation. Caught you off guard? After her parents decided to move Erins abuse ended but only brought her that much closer to her next abuser, an older teenage cousin who lived down the street from her. No one is allowed in the bathroom with you not even your friend. Erin wanted nothing more than to make him feel the hurt that she did. Little did I realize, that by moving, I was getting that much closer to the next perpetrator in my life, she said. You didn't just tell one person. But at age 11, Merryn's second nightmare began. He did respond admitting what he did and saying he is using his past to not make the same mistakes now in his life. Erin Merryn detailed the treatment and help she received from the Children's Advocacy Center, which has 900 locations across the U.S.A. - a safe environment for children to share their stories of abuse. These days hes almost 9 and I dont really tag along to play dates anymore, but every time I drop him off, I tell him, if you have to use the bathroom, lock the door and have privacy. Childhood sexual abuse survivor turned author, speaker, child advocate and activist Erin Merryn is the founder and president of Erin's Law. Requiring personal body safety education in public schools. But when it came to being sexually abused, there was nothing. High near 60F. She knew exactly what she was doing by asking simple questions on my life, friends, what I did for fun, and my family. Merryn travels the country advocating for children who are victims of sexual assault. Alaska Dispatch: Silence is a powerful way in which sexual abuse is kept secret and is perpetuated. The law was passed in a number of states,[7] with New York becoming the 37th in 2019. She lives in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. Winds WNW at 10 to 15 mph.. She has appeared on Oprah, Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, TLC documentary Breaking the Silence, CBS This Morning, Katie Couric, Tamaron Hall, 700 Club, and over 200 local media stations. Merryn said the abuse only stopped because her family moved away. Someone should have known in my earlier years when I was being abused by an adult neighbor. Erin said all she ever learnedin school was aboutstranger danger. But knowing it was not strangers who abused her,she has made it her mission as an adult to make sure kids in K-12 schoolsacross the countryonce a year learnfroma school psychologist or social workerabout personal body safety education. How? 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